Passive & Active Daters

Passive vs. Active Dating

Get Off Your Butt and Get in the Game!Online dating is definitely one of the most convenient ways to meet singles and even find a great relationship, but just because itsconvenient, doesn’t mean you are going to get what you want withoutany effort. The sad truth is that around 90% of online daters make aprofile and just wait for Mr./ Ms. Right to find them. Some of those peoplemight get lucky and their perfect person will find them, but a lot morewould find success if they would just get off their butts andget into the game.Are you an Active Dater or a Passive Dater?

*The Passive Dater*

Passive daters are generally people who aren’t completely sure that this whole “internet dating thing” is for them. They only have a toe in the water and are probably using a free membership. They know in their heart that there is someone out there who is perfect for them, and despite a little healthy skepticism, they don’t see what harm putting up a dating profile would do. After all, someone great might send them an email. For many of them, that’s the whole deal. They don’t do much searching to see if there are people they are interested in, and if they do find someone they like, they will almost always send them a wink instead of an email.Why don’t they try just a little bit harder? Sometimes it is as simple as the fear of rejection. Not getting a response to an email from someone you like can be just as painful as the first time you got rejected by a member of the opposite sex in high school. Unfortunately,the passive daters are so focused on the fear of rejection that they forget how great it feels to make that connection. On the other hand,sometimes, it’s just an issue of laziness. We all get a little lazy once in a while and honestly, it can be easier not to try than it is to put in some effort. No matter what the reason, except for the ones who are lucky to be found by active daters, passive daters almost always fail atonline dating. They end up quitting, and all they have to show for the experience is a bruised ego and a little more skepticism. Passive Daters leave, powerless, just as they came in.

The Active Dater*

If you care enough to actually read one of these advice articles, thereis a 50% percent chance that you are already an Active Dater. Thatdoesn’t mean that you are meeting all the people you want to, but thatyou have a much better chance then the Passive Daters. That’s becauseyou are willing to give it a try. Just by putting the extra effort intoyour profile and photos, and taking the time to find people you like and email them, you are 100 times more likely to meet some greatpeople, go on some great dates, and maybe even find the special personyou’ve been looking for.Active Daters know that sure, they might not get a response to all ofthe emails they send out, but they aren’t going to let that stop themfrom trying. They usually have a friend or family member that hasmet someone online and they know that “If they can do it, I can too. “The doors of online dating are open for these active daters becauseunlike the 90% of people who are waiting to be found by the 10% of theremaining daters, they can search through all 100% to find the peoplethey want to meet. Active Daters have all the power on the dating site.If anyone will find a great match it’s them.

*A Word To The Wise*

If you are a Passive Dater it’s not too late to get off your butt andstart meeting people. If you are an Active Dater you have toremember that effort is important, and so is making a great firstimpression with an interesting profile and recent, good quality photos.If you can keep up the right attitude and get the profile and photo upto snuff, nothing is going to be able to stop you.